1. Rejection. Rejection. Rejection.
How many times have you heard the old line “Thanks, but no thanks”? Or, maybe you’re more used to the old “It’s not you, it’s me”?
Either way, rejection is the key fear factor and obstacle in both dating and job hunting. And let’s face it, it’s terrifying putting yourself out there to be potentially shut down.
That’s if you’re lucky enough to receive a response at all. Silent rejection can be even more painful and is even more common. #Ghosting
2. It’s about who you know, not what you know.
Even in the days of online job boards and online dating, it’s common for dates to be set up by mutual friends and job interviews to be set up by mutual connections.
Think blind dates are awkward? Try going to a job interview set up by a friend, with no understanding of the company or expectations for the role.
Neither of you wants to be there, but you’re too polite to say otherwise.
Then again, it’s better to be set up with an awkward meeting, than none at all!
3. You’ve got to prep yourself properly for the first meeting.
Is the suit too formal? Should I wear heels? Is the lipstick too much?
It’s normal to want to prepare for your first meeting by doing some research without looking too ‘stalkerish’. You don’t want to look desperate, but you want to look like you know what you’re talking about.
For example, you don’t want him to know that you saw his pictures from 2009 of his family trip to the Gold Coast, but you would want the prospective company to know that you understand their values.
4. Chemistry cannot be forced.
You can’t force a spark! Well, unless you’re Benjamin Franklin.
Everything may seem great on paper, but when you meet in real life, you might just not click. Said company may have loved your quirky way of writing online, but maybe when you meet, they realise the quirkiness may be a little OTT. It’s often got nothing to do with anything you’ve said, or done, it’s just a natural thing.
5. It’s about more than the superficial.
You know when you meet what seems like the perfect match? 6 ft with long flowing hair and a perfect smile… and then you find out they’re a cat person, not a dog person?
Superficial connection only counts for so much in the dating world, and the same goes for job hunting.
The company in question may have ping-pong tables, flexible hours, and a chill vibe, but if your core values don’t align, then there’s no longevity in the relationship.
6. Your interest has got to be genuine.
People are quick to see through bullsh*t. Usually, it’s pretty easy to spot when someone has bad or wrong intentions.
That’s why it’s so important that your interest with the job, or with the date, is genuine. Everyone wants to feel special and people are often willing to wait until they find that genuine connection.
7. You should never badmouth your ex!
This should go without saying, yet it continually happens.
Maybe your current job and relationship didn’t end on a good note, fair enough, but that doesn’t mean you have to tell everyone that will listen.
All it does is show that:
A) You’re not over your ex-partner or former place of work
B) It acts as a future predictor of how you may act in a new relationship or job
8. You have to tell the truth.
Liars always get caught.
Maybe it seems like a good idea at the time telling your prospective employer that you have a Masters you never obtained, or you’re a pro at Excel, but haven’t really used it since year 8. It’ll come out eventually!
The same goes for dating. Sure, you want to impress your date, but if you have to pretend you have a Ferrari and a house in Sorrento, they are probably not the one for you. And shocker, but they will find out.
Open and honest is the only way to form any successful relationship.